“I think the key to moving on from a broken marriage and healing what’s broken is this…”
I believe the key to a broken marriage is to forgive the ex spouse/spouse/children’s parent. Especially, if there was a get back at, or even the score mentality that we hold resentment toward. Yes, even the most righteous of the pack has an innate conscious mind that evens the score causing history to repeat itself, as we’ve seen in war, time and time again. All of this without thinking the thought as if our soul, (aka chess game) does this without realizing it. This keeps us at war and in return has us searching for familiarity knowing something has been lost or tainted. This leads us to feel confused about what is familiar to us anymore.
This is very difficult on the children and will most likely repeat the patterns into their marriages and offsprings lives. I know it had mine, that I’ve spent so much time trying to undue the pattern that I’ve become nearly celibate to try and release my children’s lineage from the same fate. I try and view this without bias or without selfish reasons. Most of us think on selfish levels in some form or another without being aware of it. It’s always better to think positive about what the future holds versus what it doesn’t. I’m still gathering information on this subject. I’m not sure how to close this discussion as it’s an ongoing study for me.
However, I do think it’s important to go back to your most logical self, which usually comes before adolescence. Otherwise, some of us wouldn’t spend so much time after life’s experiences trying to resolve the issues.
