Hey…
I hope you are doing well.
What does anyone say about the grief process when there are so many faucets to grieving? How do you console someone going through it? For starters pick up the phone when it rings. Say that your sorry not only for their loss but for anything you have done that needs cleared so they can can clear their mind just because. Why does it or would it have to be for any other reason than to just check in? Isn’t that what our loved ones did before they left us? Isn’t that what we miss the most? For four years I felt like something was missing after my dad had passed and it was always the same thing! I missed checking in with my father. I didn’t have that countability with anyone else besides a few good friends and that can fade. We get so caught up. being angry for stuff that was never said or worse, stuff that was said. Why can’t we just check in just to check in for nothing but to say hey with a mutual understanding that that’s what we are doing. Who do we now hold accountable to say hey and have it said in return? We can get so caught up in grieving that some of us never revisit that part of ourselves because it caused so much pain. It’s a big circumference to wrap around an. average head width. What if closure is what it is we are also grieving? What’s the solution to a deep seeded need you may not ever receive to have it creep up and knock you out again? What are the coping methods for such a deep scar death of a loved one or the absence of a presence may bring? They say go for walks get back into community and get back out there. Where the heck do we find that? And what does that look like now? Some of us have young children to raise with a household to run while hiding the pain of the grief of the loss of a loved one. It took me four years to get over my dads death. He was who I checked in with. How do you console your kids that have lost a loved one? Wrap your head around that one for a moment. We all grieve in different ways while we reach for the tools of a counselor, a friend a mortal enemy for some. (Haha) It’s a lot of wreckage you hope that you can help your children get through depending on their age that you have to have files inside of files to go through just to make it out the other side the very least unscathed? I can’t even figure out how to close this piece with everything that is going on around us as our world grew smaller with the scarcity due to Covids. Just add it to the list of things to grieve? I guess my point is to just check in and say hey.
